Need to talk
My Mother died at about 9:30 this morning.
She had a stroke Tuesday afternoon and after an early positive diagnosis, she went downhill very fast on Wednesday. I spent about 5 hours by her bedside on Wednesday and was on my way back to Salem this morning to visit her again when I received the call.
I was very close to my Mother and luckily I was able to spend a couple hours with her this past Thursday. Just the two us talking. I’m going to miss her. When things were bad, I could always count on her to make me feel better.
The past couple months have been tough, and this just adds to it. I feel lost right now. I’m not taking the blog down, but I don’t expect I’ll be posting again for some time.
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Chery wrote:
I know you will miss your mother. I’m thinking about you.
Posted on 08-May-08 at 8:01 pm | Permalink
Kristel wrote:
I’m so sorry, Jerry.
Posted on 09-May-08 at 12:02 pm | Permalink
Linda wrote:
I’m so sorry. She will be sorely missed. Take care of yourself.
Posted on 09-May-08 at 12:15 pm | Permalink
Laurie wrote:
I’m so sorry for your loss Jerry.
Posted on 09-May-08 at 7:16 pm | Permalink
Kevin wrote:
Jerry, I’m so sorry to hear about your mother. I lost my mom a few years back. What keeps me going sometimes is knowing that she is always with me in my heart and memories.
You’ll be in my thoughts.
Kev
Posted on 09-May-08 at 8:09 pm | Permalink
Charlotte wrote:
You have my deepest sympathy in the loss of your mother. May your memories of time spent with her comfort you.
Posted on 09-May-08 at 9:27 pm | Permalink
LynnH wrote:
Wow, Jerry. Big, huge, sad news. It is never easy to lose a parent, never. Been there.
Remember to be gentle with yourself. Grief comes in waves (the waves come further apart as time passes) and some people will not understand. Find those who can listen, and share what you can with them. Sharing makes the feelings bearable over time.
Meanwhile, be selfish about what you need. Nobody knows what you need but you. Remember to eat, and rest if you can not sleep. Basics.
Big hugs from Michigan.
LynnH
Posted on 09-May-08 at 9:29 pm | Permalink
marcia in austin wrote:
My deepest, gentlest sympathies to you. Been there; it’s not easy but you will get through.
I can only underscore what LynnH said above: Take care of yourself physically and emotionally.
More big hugs from Austin.
Posted on 10-May-08 at 10:11 am | Permalink
Mo wrote:
I am very sorry for the sudden loss of your Mom. Losing a parent is very difficult and I will keep you in my thoughts. Take care.
Posted on 10-May-08 at 6:36 pm | Permalink
Cynthia wrote:
Sorry for your loss, Jer.
Posted on 10-May-08 at 8:38 pm | Permalink
hamilton wrote:
Jerry, stumbled on your interesting website and was shocked to see message of your recent loss. My condolences during this sad time. I lost my mom a while back and . . . well, it’s a hard thing. Take care of yourself and just take it easy, one day at a time.
Posted on 11-May-08 at 3:26 am | Permalink
Molly Bee wrote:
(((((Hugs)))))
Posted on 11-May-08 at 4:38 am | Permalink
stch wrote:
Jerry,
My sincerest sympathies with the passing of your Mother.
Posted on 11-May-08 at 6:09 am | Permalink
lulu wrote:
my prayers are with you…I know how you must feel..I lost my mom 7 years ago and its like it was yesterday..I am lost and so lonely without my beloved mom..We were so close…
hugs and prayers,
Posted on 11-May-08 at 5:19 pm | Permalink
Lisa D wrote:
I am sorry to hear that your mother is gone. She was a remarkable woman and you are her remarkable son. Take care, Lisa D.
Posted on 12-May-08 at 7:48 am | Permalink
Montannie wrote:
I surfed in and saw your note. I’m sorry for your loss.
Posted on 12-May-08 at 1:59 pm | Permalink
TB wrote:
Words probably won’t take the pain away, though if they could I’d write you a book. Just know that we readers, even if we normally just lurk, are out here sending loving thoughts your way.
Hugs,
TB
Posted on 12-May-08 at 3:46 pm | Permalink
StellaMM wrote:
Jerry, I am so sorry to hear you news. I will be thinking of you lots. Be easy on yourself at this difficult time. Loving thoughts to you.
Posted on 14-May-08 at 2:15 am | Permalink
Anne wrote:
So sorry for your loss Jerry…my mom passed away 2 years ago..we were very close it’s a difficult thing I’ll be thinking of you…
Posted on 14-May-08 at 6:13 pm | Permalink
Brenda wrote:
Oh, Jerry. I’m so sorry to hear about your mom. Take care of yourself, please. What worked best for me initially was to only do what was absolutely necessary from moment to moment, because grief kind of warped my ability to plan and make decisions. It got better day by day. When you are ready, you might investigate a grief group. Sharing really helps.
Posted on 15-May-08 at 3:34 am | Permalink
Shelley wrote:
I am so sorry to hear about your mother. I can only repeat what others have said - losing a parent is one of the hardest things and you need to make sure you take care of yourself while you grieve. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Posted on 15-May-08 at 6:55 pm | Permalink
Bridget wrote:
Jerry, I am so sorry for your loss.
Posted on 20-May-08 at 7:04 pm | Permalink
Lee wrote:
I just now came across your blog and the entry about your loss hit me smack in the face. My mom passed at a young age so I know what you’re going through, you have my sympathy & my prayers. Blessed be.
Posted on 21-May-08 at 1:15 pm | Permalink
Nurhanne wrote:
Jerry, I am sincerely sorry for your loss. Sending many thoughts your way.
Posted on 22-May-08 at 4:10 pm | Permalink
Janey wrote:
My condolences on your loss.
Posted on 28-May-08 at 4:48 pm | Permalink
Cat wrote:
Oh hon I am so sorry. I’ll keep you and yours in my prayers.
Hugs!!!
Posted on 28-May-08 at 5:33 pm | Permalink
Diane wrote:
Jerry, I am so very sorry for your loss. She was a lucky woman to have you for her son. Please know that a lot of people care about you, and take good care of yourself. Be kind to yourself.
Hugs!
Posted on 04-Jun-08 at 8:13 am | Permalink
Kelly wrote:
Dear Jerry-
I’ve read your blog for a years now. Never said hello, but thought about thanking you so many times.
I grew up in rural Washington county and when I need a break in the country, I pop by your blog for a visit.
I loved watching your knitting projects evolve. I also loved the photos of your nursery plants, cats, and homeplace. The snow scenes from this year were magnificent.
All things you may know, but it bears saying that I have truly appreciated the effort you’ve made to keep the blog going in spite of some very difficult losses and challenges.
I am very sorry about your Mother’s death. I send love to you -and thanks.
k
Posted on 05-Jun-08 at 3:40 pm | Permalink
Stephanie wrote:
I lost my husband last Dec and have been in the dump since then. I finally decided to take up knitting (so I won’t smoke) and stumbled on this site. By the way, great Spaggetti recipe. I just wanted to say that my father taught me the basics of knitting when I was 12 years old and he said men in the old country were not ashamed to knit. I think knitting is great for everyone who wants try. God Bless
Posted on 01-Aug-08 at 2:55 pm | Permalink