Comments on: Challenges http://www.gaiser.org/knitblog/2006/09/23/challenges/ whatever interests me this week.... Wed, 03 Dec 2008 23:51:28 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.3 By: Charlotte http://www.gaiser.org/knitblog/2006/09/23/challenges/#comment-4266 Charlotte Sat, 23 Sep 2006 18:17:51 +0000 http://www.gaiser.org/knitblog/2006/09/23/challenges/#comment-4266 You might meet someone there to share the day with! Think positive. There's no reason you can't invite someone to have dinner with you. Stop talking so negatively to yourself! You might meet someone there to share the day with! Think positive. There’s no reason you can’t invite someone to have dinner with you. Stop talking so negatively to yourself!

]]> By: Emma http://www.gaiser.org/knitblog/2006/09/23/challenges/#comment-4267 Emma Sat, 23 Sep 2006 21:07:39 +0000 http://www.gaiser.org/knitblog/2006/09/23/challenges/#comment-4267 Hope you have a great day. You can always chat with us ! We're real people,you know. If you were on the same continent I'd invite you over for nice glass of merlot/beer/ale or two ! Hope you have a great day.
You can always chat with us ! We’re real people,you know. If you were on the same continent I’d invite you over for nice glass of merlot/beer/ale or two !

]]> By: Judi http://www.gaiser.org/knitblog/2006/09/23/challenges/#comment-4268 Judi Sat, 23 Sep 2006 23:59:34 +0000 http://www.gaiser.org/knitblog/2006/09/23/challenges/#comment-4268 I think you and I must have different definitions of lonely. I only consider myself lonely when I can't be in touch with my "self". It isn't usually a matter of having other people around. As a matter of fact I have often been most lonely when I was surrounded by and doing things with, other people. I did have a wonderful friendship once where I felt somewhat more "complete" if you will than I did by myself, and when it ended I felt raw and "unfinished". Perhaps that is what you are feeling now. Perhaps we just use different words for the same feelings. I think you and I must have different definitions of lonely. I only consider myself lonely when I can’t be in touch with my “self”. It isn’t usually a matter of having other people around. As a matter of fact I have often been most lonely when I was surrounded by and doing things with, other people.

I did have a wonderful friendship once where I felt somewhat more “complete” if you will than I did by myself, and when it ended I felt raw and “unfinished”. Perhaps that is what you are feeling now. Perhaps we just use different words for the same feelings.

]]> By: Nancy http://www.gaiser.org/knitblog/2006/09/23/challenges/#comment-4269 Nancy Sun, 24 Sep 2006 00:45:14 +0000 http://www.gaiser.org/knitblog/2006/09/23/challenges/#comment-4269 Sorry to hear about what has happened. I figured the guy would either be out of the picture by now. I have been in the hospital and to me it speaks volumes who is by your side. I have a feeling this guys wife threw him out. I wish I could have dinner and share the experience with you, but I am still recovering and live way to far away. Change is never easy even when we want it. Sorry to hear about what has happened. I figured the guy would either be out of the picture by now. I have been in the hospital and to me it speaks volumes who is by your side. I have a feeling this guys wife threw him out. I wish I could have dinner and share the experience with you, but I am still recovering and live way to far away. Change is never easy even when we want it.

]]> By: Judy http://www.gaiser.org/knitblog/2006/09/23/challenges/#comment-4270 Judy Sun, 24 Sep 2006 02:01:16 +0000 http://www.gaiser.org/knitblog/2006/09/23/challenges/#comment-4270 I looked for you at OFFF. I couldn't get down there until about 1:30 and could only stay until about 4:30. I suspect you may have left by then, if you went down early. About loneliness -- I usually find that I'm most lonely when I have something that I need to deal with that I'm ignoring. The only cure that I've found is to get busy and do something - anything, but doing something nice for someone works the best. And dealing with the ignored things is a good idea, too. And you can share -- you share on here and many people listen. I may not always comment, but I listen. I looked for you at OFFF. I couldn’t get down there until about 1:30 and could only stay until about 4:30. I suspect you may have left by then, if you went down early.

About loneliness — I usually find that I’m most lonely when I have something that I need to deal with that I’m ignoring. The only cure that I’ve found is to get busy and do something - anything, but doing something nice for someone works the best. And dealing with the ignored things is a good idea, too.

And you can share — you share on here and many people listen. I may not always comment, but I listen.

]]> By: Jerry http://www.gaiser.org/knitblog/2006/09/23/challenges/#comment-4271 Jerry Sun, 24 Sep 2006 02:13:53 +0000 http://www.gaiser.org/knitblog/2006/09/23/challenges/#comment-4271 First.. Most of you I've never met, but some of you have helped me through some trying times in the past couple months, whether you've realized it or not. It's been good for me to talk (write) and it's been good to get feedback from folks a bit more experience. Second... Words.. Sometimes my choice of words gets me in trouble. Always has. Raw and unfinished is a good description of what I'm feeling. I feel that something is missing. There's a big hole in my life and in my soul. But, I know that this will pass, just as the depression passed. I've just got to give it time. First.. Most of you I’ve never met, but some of you have helped me through some trying times in the past couple months, whether you’ve realized it or not. It’s been good for me to talk (write) and it’s been good to get feedback from folks a bit more experience.

Second… Words.. Sometimes my choice of words gets me in trouble. Always has. Raw and unfinished is a good description of what I’m feeling. I feel that something is missing. There’s a big hole in my life and in my soul.

But, I know that this will pass, just as the depression passed. I’ve just got to give it time.

]]> By: Barbar http://www.gaiser.org/knitblog/2006/09/23/challenges/#comment-4286 Barbar Mon, 25 Sep 2006 14:37:26 +0000 http://www.gaiser.org/knitblog/2006/09/23/challenges/#comment-4286 Yes, Jerry it does pass. My husband left four years ago. We had been married 32 years. In an earlier post you said you had thought you and Eileen would grow old together. That really resonated with me. That's what I thought too. Not having someone to share life with on a daily basis is lonely. I have friends and family, but is isn't the same. I have adjusted and I'm not looking for another relationship, I think maybe he was it for me. I wish you well and in time you too will be ok with living alone. Perhaps someone will come into your life and bring you love and happiness. Trust in yourself, you will be ok whatever the future holds for you. Yes, Jerry it does pass. My husband left four years ago. We had been married 32 years. In an earlier post you said you had thought you and Eileen would grow old together. That really resonated with me. That’s what I thought too. Not having someone to share life with on a daily basis is lonely. I have friends and family, but is isn’t the same. I have adjusted and I’m not looking for another relationship, I think maybe he was it for me. I wish you well and in time you too will be ok with living alone. Perhaps someone will come into your life and bring you love and happiness. Trust in yourself, you will be ok whatever the future holds for you.

]]> By: Marie http://www.gaiser.org/knitblog/2006/09/23/challenges/#comment-4391 Marie Mon, 02 Oct 2006 01:57:18 +0000 http://www.gaiser.org/knitblog/2006/09/23/challenges/#comment-4391 Facing the future alone is something I never thought I'd have to do--but now I'm doing it. It's harder after a year than it was at first, but I'm operating on the premise that the more I resist getting out around others, the more I am NEEDING to do it. Being alone is getting to be more okay--some of the time. Just have a lot of major decisions to make, and I keep putting them off. So hang in there--if I can do it (at my age) you can too! Facing the future alone is something I never thought I’d have to do–but now I’m doing it. It’s harder after a year than it was at first, but I’m operating on the premise that the more I resist getting out around others, the more I am NEEDING to do it. Being alone is getting to be more okay–some of the time. Just have a lot of major decisions to make, and I keep putting them off. So hang in there–if I can do it (at my age) you can too!

]]> By: Jerry http://www.gaiser.org/knitblog/2006/09/23/challenges/#comment-4395 Jerry Mon, 02 Oct 2006 04:25:13 +0000 http://www.gaiser.org/knitblog/2006/09/23/challenges/#comment-4395 Though I'm starting to understand that there is a difference between being alone and being lonely, it's still hard to go through the days without someone by your side. It get's better day by day, but darn it's slow... Though I’m starting to understand that there is a difference between being alone and being lonely, it’s still hard to go through the days without someone by your side. It get’s better day by day, but darn it’s slow…

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